Tag Archive: Mailbag

Mailbag #14

Anonymous asks: How do I respond to my brother’s request that I forgive our toxic mother? Something tells me he’s more interested in Kodak moments than forgiveness. That is, I get the impression that your brother wants the entire family to gather together for birthdays, weddings, and holidays without tension. He wants to make lots…






Mailbag #12

Ridgeback Rogue asked me this recently on Ask.fm, and I thought it would make a good blog post: What question have you been too afraid to ask?  I’ve faced a few huge questions in my life. While I’ve (more or less) figured them out now, they dominated my most private thoughts for a long time…






Mailbag #11

Anonymous asks: What are some things that you are skeptical about in relation to other people? 1) Love at first sight. Infatuation can happen instantly, but I don’t think it’s possible to love someone you’ve just met (unless they’re a newborn and closely related to you). We all need time to get to know that…






Mailbag #10

A reader asks: How do you say no when people dump their emotional stuff onto you? This post might be helpful to you. I used to think it was my responsibility to help others get better. It isn’t. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is to not try to fix them. For example, there…






Mailbag #9

Anonymous asks: How has your worldview towards people with disabilities changed? I’ve come to realize that there are certain things I will never understand about living with a disability because I don’t have personal experience with it. I’ve said and done things that I didn’t know were offensive and felt quite guilty when I learned…






Mailbag #8

A reader asks: Can you tell me something about your family? Describe your immediate and extended family. Several actually read this blog. I’ll leave it up to them to reveal themselves (or not) but here’s some general information. My parents live in Arizona, have been married for 31 years and spent the first two decades…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything! Recently anonymous asked:  What are your most strongly held beliefs? 1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really…






Mailbag #5

Anonymous asks: How do you approach someone who has a non-theistic worldview? Without an agenda. Look, we know when we’re being “courted” through friendship evangelism. It’s disheartening to be treated as a project, to be valued as a friend only if you come around to someone else’s way of thinking. Does this mean you can’t talk about…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Tag Archive: Mailbag

Mailbag #14

Anonymous asks: How do I respond to my brother’s request that I forgive our toxic mother? Something tells me he’s more interested in Kodak moments than forgiveness. That is, I get the impression that your brother wants the entire family to gather together for birthdays, weddings, and holidays without tension. He wants to make lots…






Mailbag #12

Ridgeback Rogue asked me this recently on Ask.fm, and I thought it would make a good blog post: What question have you been too afraid to ask?  I’ve faced a few huge questions in my life. While I’ve (more or less) figured them out now, they dominated my most private thoughts for a long time…






Mailbag #11

Anonymous asks: What are some things that you are skeptical about in relation to other people? 1) Love at first sight. Infatuation can happen instantly, but I don’t think it’s possible to love someone you’ve just met (unless they’re a newborn and closely related to you). We all need time to get to know that…






Mailbag #10

A reader asks: How do you say no when people dump their emotional stuff onto you? This post might be helpful to you. I used to think it was my responsibility to help others get better. It isn’t. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is to not try to fix them. For example, there…






Mailbag #9

Anonymous asks: How has your worldview towards people with disabilities changed? I’ve come to realize that there are certain things I will never understand about living with a disability because I don’t have personal experience with it. I’ve said and done things that I didn’t know were offensive and felt quite guilty when I learned…






Mailbag #8

A reader asks: Can you tell me something about your family? Describe your immediate and extended family. Several actually read this blog. I’ll leave it up to them to reveal themselves (or not) but here’s some general information. My parents live in Arizona, have been married for 31 years and spent the first two decades…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything! Recently anonymous asked:  What are your most strongly held beliefs? 1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really…






Mailbag #5

Anonymous asks: How do you approach someone who has a non-theistic worldview? Without an agenda. Look, we know when we’re being “courted” through friendship evangelism. It’s disheartening to be treated as a project, to be valued as a friend only if you come around to someone else’s way of thinking. Does this mean you can’t talk about…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Tag Archive: Mailbag

Mailbag #14

Anonymous asks: How do I respond to my brother’s request that I forgive our toxic mother? Something tells me he’s more interested in Kodak moments than forgiveness. That is, I get the impression that your brother wants the entire family to gather together for birthdays, weddings, and holidays without tension. He wants to make lots…






Mailbag #12

Ridgeback Rogue asked me this recently on Ask.fm, and I thought it would make a good blog post: What question have you been too afraid to ask?  I’ve faced a few huge questions in my life. While I’ve (more or less) figured them out now, they dominated my most private thoughts for a long time…






Mailbag #11

Anonymous asks: What are some things that you are skeptical about in relation to other people? 1) Love at first sight. Infatuation can happen instantly, but I don’t think it’s possible to love someone you’ve just met (unless they’re a newborn and closely related to you). We all need time to get to know that…






Mailbag #10

A reader asks: How do you say no when people dump their emotional stuff onto you? This post might be helpful to you. I used to think it was my responsibility to help others get better. It isn’t. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is to not try to fix them. For example, there…






Mailbag #9

Anonymous asks: How has your worldview towards people with disabilities changed? I’ve come to realize that there are certain things I will never understand about living with a disability because I don’t have personal experience with it. I’ve said and done things that I didn’t know were offensive and felt quite guilty when I learned…






Mailbag #8

A reader asks: Can you tell me something about your family? Describe your immediate and extended family. Several actually read this blog. I’ll leave it up to them to reveal themselves (or not) but here’s some general information. My parents live in Arizona, have been married for 31 years and spent the first two decades…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything! Recently anonymous asked:  What are your most strongly held beliefs? 1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really…






Mailbag #5

Anonymous asks: How do you approach someone who has a non-theistic worldview? Without an agenda. Look, we know when we’re being “courted” through friendship evangelism. It’s disheartening to be treated as a project, to be valued as a friend only if you come around to someone else’s way of thinking. Does this mean you can’t talk about…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Tag Archive: Mailbag

Mailbag #14

Anonymous asks: How do I respond to my brother’s request that I forgive our toxic mother? Something tells me he’s more interested in Kodak moments than forgiveness. That is, I get the impression that your brother wants the entire family to gather together for birthdays, weddings, and holidays without tension. He wants to make lots…






Mailbag #12

Ridgeback Rogue asked me this recently on Ask.fm, and I thought it would make a good blog post: What question have you been too afraid to ask?  I’ve faced a few huge questions in my life. While I’ve (more or less) figured them out now, they dominated my most private thoughts for a long time…






Mailbag #11

Anonymous asks: What are some things that you are skeptical about in relation to other people? 1) Love at first sight. Infatuation can happen instantly, but I don’t think it’s possible to love someone you’ve just met (unless they’re a newborn and closely related to you). We all need time to get to know that…






Mailbag #10

A reader asks: How do you say no when people dump their emotional stuff onto you? This post might be helpful to you. I used to think it was my responsibility to help others get better. It isn’t. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is to not try to fix them. For example, there…






Mailbag #9

Anonymous asks: How has your worldview towards people with disabilities changed? I’ve come to realize that there are certain things I will never understand about living with a disability because I don’t have personal experience with it. I’ve said and done things that I didn’t know were offensive and felt quite guilty when I learned…






Mailbag #8

A reader asks: Can you tell me something about your family? Describe your immediate and extended family. Several actually read this blog. I’ll leave it up to them to reveal themselves (or not) but here’s some general information. My parents live in Arizona, have been married for 31 years and spent the first two decades…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything! Recently anonymous asked:  What are your most strongly held beliefs? 1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really…






Mailbag #5

Anonymous asks: How do you approach someone who has a non-theistic worldview? Without an agenda. Look, we know when we’re being “courted” through friendship evangelism. It’s disheartening to be treated as a project, to be valued as a friend only if you come around to someone else’s way of thinking. Does this mean you can’t talk about…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Tag Archive: Mailbag

Mailbag #14

Anonymous asks: How do I respond to my brother’s request that I forgive our toxic mother? Something tells me he’s more interested in Kodak moments than forgiveness. That is, I get the impression that your brother wants the entire family to gather together for birthdays, weddings, and holidays without tension. He wants to make lots…






Mailbag #12

Ridgeback Rogue asked me this recently on Ask.fm, and I thought it would make a good blog post: What question have you been too afraid to ask?  I’ve faced a few huge questions in my life. While I’ve (more or less) figured them out now, they dominated my most private thoughts for a long time…






Mailbag #11

Anonymous asks: What are some things that you are skeptical about in relation to other people? 1) Love at first sight. Infatuation can happen instantly, but I don’t think it’s possible to love someone you’ve just met (unless they’re a newborn and closely related to you). We all need time to get to know that…






Mailbag #10

A reader asks: How do you say no when people dump their emotional stuff onto you? This post might be helpful to you. I used to think it was my responsibility to help others get better. It isn’t. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is to not try to fix them. For example, there…






Mailbag #9

Anonymous asks: How has your worldview towards people with disabilities changed? I’ve come to realize that there are certain things I will never understand about living with a disability because I don’t have personal experience with it. I’ve said and done things that I didn’t know were offensive and felt quite guilty when I learned…






Mailbag #8

A reader asks: Can you tell me something about your family? Describe your immediate and extended family. Several actually read this blog. I’ll leave it up to them to reveal themselves (or not) but here’s some general information. My parents live in Arizona, have been married for 31 years and spent the first two decades…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything! Recently anonymous asked:  What are your most strongly held beliefs? 1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really…






Mailbag #5

Anonymous asks: How do you approach someone who has a non-theistic worldview? Without an agenda. Look, we know when we’re being “courted” through friendship evangelism. It’s disheartening to be treated as a project, to be valued as a friend only if you come around to someone else’s way of thinking. Does this mean you can’t talk about…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Tag Archive: Mailbag

Mailbag #14

Anonymous asks: How do I respond to my brother’s request that I forgive our toxic mother? Something tells me he’s more interested in Kodak moments than forgiveness. That is, I get the impression that your brother wants the entire family to gather together for birthdays, weddings, and holidays without tension. He wants to make lots…






Mailbag #12

Ridgeback Rogue asked me this recently on Ask.fm, and I thought it would make a good blog post: What question have you been too afraid to ask?  I’ve faced a few huge questions in my life. While I’ve (more or less) figured them out now, they dominated my most private thoughts for a long time…






Mailbag #11

Anonymous asks: What are some things that you are skeptical about in relation to other people? 1) Love at first sight. Infatuation can happen instantly, but I don’t think it’s possible to love someone you’ve just met (unless they’re a newborn and closely related to you). We all need time to get to know that…






Mailbag #10

A reader asks: How do you say no when people dump their emotional stuff onto you? This post might be helpful to you. I used to think it was my responsibility to help others get better. It isn’t. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is to not try to fix them. For example, there…






Mailbag #9

Anonymous asks: How has your worldview towards people with disabilities changed? I’ve come to realize that there are certain things I will never understand about living with a disability because I don’t have personal experience with it. I’ve said and done things that I didn’t know were offensive and felt quite guilty when I learned…






Mailbag #8

A reader asks: Can you tell me something about your family? Describe your immediate and extended family. Several actually read this blog. I’ll leave it up to them to reveal themselves (or not) but here’s some general information. My parents live in Arizona, have been married for 31 years and spent the first two decades…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything! Recently anonymous asked:  What are your most strongly held beliefs? 1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really…






Mailbag #5

Anonymous asks: How do you approach someone who has a non-theistic worldview? Without an agenda. Look, we know when we’re being “courted” through friendship evangelism. It’s disheartening to be treated as a project, to be valued as a friend only if you come around to someone else’s way of thinking. Does this mean you can’t talk about…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






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Mailbag #14

Anonymous asks: How do I respond to my brother’s request that I forgive our toxic mother? Something tells me he’s more interested in Kodak moments than forgiveness. That is, I get the impression that your brother wants the entire family to gather together for birthdays, weddings, and holidays without tension. He wants to make lots…






Mailbag #12

Ridgeback Rogue asked me this recently on Ask.fm, and I thought it would make a good blog post: What question have you been too afraid to ask?  I’ve faced a few huge questions in my life. While I’ve (more or less) figured them out now, they dominated my most private thoughts for a long time…






Mailbag #11

Anonymous asks: What are some things that you are skeptical about in relation to other people? 1) Love at first sight. Infatuation can happen instantly, but I don’t think it’s possible to love someone you’ve just met (unless they’re a newborn and closely related to you). We all need time to get to know that…






Mailbag #10

A reader asks: How do you say no when people dump their emotional stuff onto you? This post might be helpful to you. I used to think it was my responsibility to help others get better. It isn’t. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is to not try to fix them. For example, there…






Mailbag #9

Anonymous asks: How has your worldview towards people with disabilities changed? I’ve come to realize that there are certain things I will never understand about living with a disability because I don’t have personal experience with it. I’ve said and done things that I didn’t know were offensive and felt quite guilty when I learned…






Mailbag #8

A reader asks: Can you tell me something about your family? Describe your immediate and extended family. Several actually read this blog. I’ll leave it up to them to reveal themselves (or not) but here’s some general information. My parents live in Arizona, have been married for 31 years and spent the first two decades…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything! Recently anonymous asked:  What are your most strongly held beliefs? 1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really…






Mailbag #5

Anonymous asks: How do you approach someone who has a non-theistic worldview? Without an agenda. Look, we know when we’re being “courted” through friendship evangelism. It’s disheartening to be treated as a project, to be valued as a friend only if you come around to someone else’s way of thinking. Does this mean you can’t talk about…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Tag Archive: Mailbag

Mailbag #14

Anonymous asks: How do I respond to my brother’s request that I forgive our toxic mother? Something tells me he’s more interested in Kodak moments than forgiveness. That is, I get the impression that your brother wants the entire family to gather together for birthdays, weddings, and holidays without tension. He wants to make lots…






Mailbag #12

Ridgeback Rogue asked me this recently on Ask.fm, and I thought it would make a good blog post: What question have you been too afraid to ask?  I’ve faced a few huge questions in my life. While I’ve (more or less) figured them out now, they dominated my most private thoughts for a long time…






Mailbag #11

Anonymous asks: What are some things that you are skeptical about in relation to other people? 1) Love at first sight. Infatuation can happen instantly, but I don’t think it’s possible to love someone you’ve just met (unless they’re a newborn and closely related to you). We all need time to get to know that…






Mailbag #10

A reader asks: How do you say no when people dump their emotional stuff onto you? This post might be helpful to you. I used to think it was my responsibility to help others get better. It isn’t. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is to not try to fix them. For example, there…






Mailbag #9

Anonymous asks: How has your worldview towards people with disabilities changed? I’ve come to realize that there are certain things I will never understand about living with a disability because I don’t have personal experience with it. I’ve said and done things that I didn’t know were offensive and felt quite guilty when I learned…






Mailbag #8

A reader asks: Can you tell me something about your family? Describe your immediate and extended family. Several actually read this blog. I’ll leave it up to them to reveal themselves (or not) but here’s some general information. My parents live in Arizona, have been married for 31 years and spent the first two decades…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #6

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to update this series.  Thank you to whomever it was who thought up this question. Lurkers, please don’t be shy. I’m happy to answer anything! Recently anonymous asked:  What are your most strongly held beliefs? 1. Politics are useless. By that I mean that it doesn’t really…






Mailbag #5

Anonymous asks: How do you approach someone who has a non-theistic worldview? Without an agenda. Look, we know when we’re being “courted” through friendship evangelism. It’s disheartening to be treated as a project, to be valued as a friend only if you come around to someone else’s way of thinking. Does this mean you can’t talk about…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…