Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…






Tag Archive: Holidays

Behind Closed Doors

While I was growing up my father often said, “you never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.” It was eye-opening as a preacher’s kid to glimpse what was really happening in other people’s homes. Some of the happiest families at church assumed those roles by stuffing their darkest secrets so deeply into…






Thanksgiving Thoughts

This past year or so has been quite the roller coaster ride.  Drew and I have moved twice, had several relatives become seriously ill, said a permanent goodbye to two extended family members and dealt with a host of other life challenges. This quote is one of the things that pulled me through some tough…






4 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

December wasn’t an easy month for me. To be honest by the end of it I’d grown pretty grouchy and wavered between feeling guilty for letting stress affect me so much and bristling against the forced cheerfulness of the season. Sometimes, this process can be very subconscious. We won’t know why we’re being mean or…






The Upside of Being a Hypocrite

Confession: I participated in a gift exchange this year. No, I still don’t celebrate Christmas (unless baking chocolate chip cookies somehow counts!) It was with a small group of people. Bowing out was not something that could have gone unnoticed. And I didn’t want to be the different one again. Too often I say no…






So You Want to Avoid Awkward Conversations

It’s that time of year again. Families are gathering together.  Christmas can be a wonderful chance to catch up with relatives you don’t see as often as you’d prefer. But sometimes awkward questions about what you are or are not doing with your life wiggle down the table and take root next to the mashed potatoes…






Should You Buy That Gift?

Christmas is less than a month away for those of who celebrate it. I have mixed thoughts about this chart – Never going into debt or buying stuff that you know the recipient doesn’t need or want is fantastic advice. Yet there are a few silly assumptions here: 1) you still must buy gifts, 2) gifts only count  if…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Mailbag #2

Anonymous asks: How do you tell your extended family that you do not want to celebrate with gifts this year? Good question. My immediate and extended family has scaled way back on the annual gift exchange over the last half dozen years. Children still receive them (and my grandmother reserves the right to give presents…






Verbing Valentine’s Day

Instead of talking about what is wrong with Valentine’s Day, though, I decided to list more meaningful ways to show affection to a significant other. My philosophy of love, so to speak, is pragmatic.











Cultivating Gratitude

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley “It’s all very well to read about sorrows and imagine yourself living through them heroically, but it’s not so nice when you really come to have them, is it?” – Anne Shirley Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Celebrating…