Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…






Tag Archive: Deconversion

Deconversion Twinges

It’s been well over a year since I blogged about what it’s like to deconvert from Christianity. (New readers, click on the Deconversion tag on the righthand side of this page for the whole story. It’s a long one). At first it was sort of like phantom limb syndrome. A part of me was gone. Sort of. I wanted…






My Meditation Confession

I’ve talked a lot about meditating on this blog over the years. It’s something that appealed to me even back when I was a Christian and thought doing it might be spiritually dangerous. My mind has always been so full of thoughts that there was something wonderful about taking occasional breaks from them. It’s not…






Why I’m an Apatheist

Longterm readers might remember how often I used to talk about my deconversion from Christianity when I first started this blog. Eventually I ran out of things to say about that topic, though, and I drifted to more interesting questions. It wasn’t easy to shrug off something that had such a profound impact on my childhood and…






The Truth About Deconversion and Grief

I love my life now but deconverting wasn’t always an easy process. Because so many new visitors have discovered On the Other Hand by searching for terms like deconversion grief and depression and deconversion I thought I’d tell my story for them. It started when I stopped attending church at seventeen. While I was relieved…






Post Hoc and the Good Person Question

Lorena had a great question on her blog last week. For those of you who aren’t interested in following the link, she has a friend who said the following and she wanted to know how other non-theists would respond to it: I had a classmate in high school. He was a pastor’s kid and did…






Mailbag #7

A reader asks: What do non-theists think of religion? I know people who love debating about it and others who never think about such things. So much depends on how that person was raised, the experiences they’ve had with theists and whether they’re actually interested in in the topic. Some love to debate/discuss this stuff, others…






Mailbag #4

Anonymous asks: How do you find other non-theists in your community? Hello, Anonymous. Here are a few ideas: 1. Grassroots Skeptics and Atheist Nexus. 2. Visit your local university, college or community college. They often host free or low cost events – plays, musical performances, art exhibits, lectures. I’ve noticed a correlation between intellectual curiosity and a willingness…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






The Deconversion Guide: Holidays

Welcome to part five of the deconversion guide. Click here for the last entry.  Some of the biggest holidays of the year are just around the corner. Now is the best time to start preparing for them. Once again I’m going to be assuming that your loved ones a) know about your deconversion and b) that there…






Wild Card Wednesday: Rising Atheism in America

The US is increasingly portrayed as a hotbed of religious fervour. Yet in the homeland of ostentatiously religious politicians such as Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry, agnostics and atheists are actually part of one of the fastest-growing demographics in the US: the godless. Far from being in thrall to its religious leaders, the US is…