Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…






Tag Archive: Compassion

The Third Option: A Response to Take Nothing Personally

This post was originally published on February 10, 2014. I will have a fresh topic for my readers on Monday! Feed the real hunger, which is a plea for understanding. It’s their cry for help. The question is how we answer the cry. It starts with compassion. I’m not talking about pity, or pop psychologizing someone…






How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Makes Us Who We Are

If the embedded video doesn’t play, click here. This is a 20 minute talk about how people find meaning in their own suffering without relying on supernatural or religious explanations for it. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, try skipping through the first half. The last 5-10 minutes is where this talk…






Is It Ok to Not Like Kids?

A response to I Don’t Like Kids. There, I Said It.  I actually agree with much of what Nissa has to say on this subject. Many years ago I decided to never become a mother for the same reasons she mentions: a complete lack of interest in parenting, a strong preference for a quiet, orderly…






They Don’t Belong Here

It was a cold, windy afternoon. While checking out some library books I heard a conversation heating up: “… and they could have bedbugs.” The woman anxiously jerked her grey curls to three men reading in the corner surrounded by their tattered backpacks and faded grocery bags. “Everyone is welcome here,” the clerk replied. “But…






Why Food Drives Are a Terrible Idea

All across America, charitable organizations and the food industry have set up mechanisms through which emergency food providers can get their hands on surplus food for a nominal handling charge. Katherina Rosqueta, executive director of the Center for High Impact Philanthropy at the University of Pennsylvania, explains that food providers can get what they need for “pennies…






Mailbag #3

Anonymous asks: How do you respond to a friend who is asking for prayers?  Hi, Anonymous. Thank you for writing to me. Say, “you’ll be in my thoughts” if it’s at all socially possible for you to skirt around the issue for the time being. Most of time people don’t request prayers for happy, stress-free…






How to (Start to) Forgive Yourself for Small Mistakes

Forgiveness has been on my mind this fall. It’s so much easier for me to forgive someone else for making a dumb mistake than it is to forgive myself. Why? There’s no possible way for me to control the decisions other people make. I can ask them to do (or not to do) something but…






Unsent Letter

Dear Irate Woman at the Bus Stop, I understand your anger and fear. Even in a city as safe and well-lit as Toronto there is a difference between a woman travelling alone after dark and a man doing the same thing. It isn’t right and it sure as hell isn’t fair but there are things…






The Deconversion Guide: Prayer

Part three of my series on life after faith. Click here for part two. Today’s topic: Prayer. How do you respond to prayer requests? What about praying before a meal? Is it polite to ask a well-meaning friend or family member not to pray for you? Let’s talk about these one at a time. Prayer…






How to Avoid Emotion Dumps

Last week this blog had a series of search engine hits on what to do when other people dump their emotions onto you. I’ve seen this type of behaviour take many forms: extreme anxiety, anger, passive-aggressive comments. A few thoughts on preventing emotion dumps: Mark a Line in The Sand. There is definitely something to…